Father’s Speech at The True Children’s Day Celebration held On November 19, 1998 In New York
As today is a special day, True Children’s Day, I am going to explain how to prepare yourselves to enter the Kingdom. There are many different religions in this world. One of their common goals is to lead people into the Kingdom of Heaven. But they do not know the best way. That is what we have to find out.
When God created humankind he started with one man and one woman. For what purpose? If the purpose of the creation of human beings was to feel good, do you think it was for the sake of Adam and Eve to feel good, or was it for God Himself? Which comes first? [God.] How can God be happy? Just imagine; when God felt good after creating Adam and Eve, do you think he felt good just by looking at their faces or by kissing them? If it were because of kissing them, where do you think it would have taken place, up in heaven? Or would God have come down to Adam and Eve’s level? [Adam and Eve’s level.] Really?
Then who do you think God must have kissed first, Adam or Eve? Suppose God did kiss Eve first; then what do you think Adam must have felt? Would he have just watched them, or would he have asked God, “Why didn’t You kiss me first?” Which is more valuable, the son’s position or the daughter’s position? It is not a simple question requiring just a simple answer.
We must consider whether there is any condition under which neither God nor Adam nor Eve would mind if God were to come down and kiss one of them first. Can we find such a place? We can conclude that there must be the place or condition where God can kiss either of them any time and no one minds at all. Don’t you think God must have thought about this? The ideal conclusion is that when God actually gives a kiss to one, all three of them should feel happy. Since Adam and Eve were in the growing stage they might not have thought about it. But since God was perfect already, He must have thought about finding the ideal position in which to kiss them in a way that all three of them would be happy.
Suppose God comes down and asks Adam, “Adam, do you think you can kiss Eve and make all three of us happy?” and Adam says, “No, no.” Then God asks Eve, ‘What about you?” but Eve replies, “No, I don’t have confidence.” Then they turn around and challenge God saying, “What about You, God, can You do that?” Then what kind of answer do you think God would offer? Would He nod His head or shake it? [Nod it.] How can He do that? The practical and logical conclusion is that God has to divide Himself in half: one side goes to Adam and the other to Eve to give them a kiss. Father is giving you this talk because it is very important. We are talking about feeling good based on kissing! Kissing and embracing take place to achieve love. Is that true? [Yes.]
Does woman absolutely need man? Is that the viewpoint of American women? Absolute means only one, not two. What kind of love partner do you want, just a temporary one or an eternal, absolute one? If husband and wife need one another absolutely, whatever belongs to one belongs to the other also, including hair, clothing, socks. Everything should be absolute based upon an absolute standard. What about your spouse’s eyes, nose, and mouth? Of course, absolutely, If one can say, “I love my spouse with an absolute love; we are united as one body,” how wonderful that is. Every man and woman wants to be in that kind of position and place of settlement, the starting point of family. Is it true?
NATURE AS ADAM AND EVE’S TEACHER
Do you think as Adam and Eve grew they developed the desire to embrace and kiss each other? Where did they learn it? [From nature.] That’s true. After learning, what is the next step? Don’t you think they were curious watching birds and animals loving and producing offspring? Don’t you think they envied them? It is natural. Even among fallen human beings, when children grow up they must be thinking about and imagining every kind of possibility about the opposite sex. It is something mysterious to them. Then think about Adam and Eve in their original state, not having fallen; don’t you think they had that kind of thinking and curiosity and that as they grew up they paid more attention to the differences between them?
When Adam and Eve became teenagers, what do you think God told them? Did He tell them to go ahead as they wished or to wait until He said go? [To wait.] For what, forever? Suppose God said, “Wait until you are fully ripe. You should become a fireball. Then when the time comes that you are ripe enough, I will come and embrace and kiss you. That will be when your eyes, nose and ears and every organ and cell of your body are all smiling and intoxicated. When every organ and cell is wide open to receive love, that is the time I will come and tell you to go ahead. Then you will be conquered by that.” That is the way of love. Once you fall in love deeply, that is the kind of experience you have. So if God said not J:o eat the fruit, it meant God wanted them to wait until the temperature rose to, let’s say, 10,000 degrees, which God sees as the minimum level. Yet before Adam and Eve reached that temperature they ate the fruit.
If they were to reach that top level, do you think it would be only Adam and Eve who get really excited and intoxicated? God would be in that same position on a higher level. Who do you think has a higher temperature of love, Adam and Eve or God? [God.] How do I know this? Did I observe it? Do you want to know how I found out? This is the treasure of God, Reverend Moon and all humanity. Jeon boonhap jagyeong-eun Hananim-eui sarang motchae. What does this mean? Adam and Eve had their own fire of love inside which was becoming hotter and hotter, but their love power originated in God. So even though the temperature of their fire may have risen to 10,000 degrees, God’s original fire of love is always hotter. Jeon-boonhap-jagyeong means origin-division-union action, and sarang motchae means original love. Thus the action of origin, division and union is God’s original love power.
Plus represents the original one, while minus is the resultant thing. No matter how wonderful or famous a person is, every human being is a resultant, not causal being. One side represents sung sang, the other hyung sang; when these are combined the result is children. Horizontally it represents plus and minus, but we have a vertical relationship to God which, including the children’s level, forms a four position foundation. However now we are in the course of restoration, a reversal of the course of the fall.
Do you want to remain always below God, or do you sometimes feel you want to become even greater than God? When it comes to true love, each partner always wants to see the other as greater than himself or herself. Adam and Eve had the same desire. Why? From God’s point of view, when He as an invisible being creates Adam and Eve as His love partner, because they are visible they can create more excitement and all kinds of emotion. In this sense, God wanted them to be even greater than Himself so that He could experience a greater excitement and more varied emotion. That is why, in the vertical subject and object relationship between God and Adam and Eve, there is always the universal law in effect that within the practice of true love both sides always want to see their partner as greater than themselves. How can they do that? God, in the position of subject and parent, is eternally investing in His children and then forgetting what He has invested. His children are growing up as a result. To ensure that you and your spouse become a couple loved by God and who can offer true love to God, thus realizing a true love relationship, there is only one way. It is by investing yourself 100 percent over and over, yet not keeping an account; in other words, living for the sake of others. That sacrificial way is the only way God will recognize your practice of love. It is the only way for you to reach God. Can you do it?
So when God, Adam and Eve are all feeling happy, what do you think is the next step? How can the invisible God and the visible children unite and be happy? When you go to the spirit world, do you want to be unable to see God eternally, or do wish that somehow you could see and touch God whom you have been loving throughout your life? The reality is that Adam and Eve as resultant beings are visible, while God as the causal being is invisible. The final goal of God’s creation was to make unity between the invisible and visible beings and create the utmost happiness, goodness and joy. That was the biggest step and question God had until the end of the process of His creation. But the answer is simple. God planted his invisible sung sang and hyung sang into the visible beings, His children, Adam and Eve. We can say then that after His sung sang and hyung sang go into Adam and Eve, this invisible being, God, should disappear. Then where else can we find God? Within Adam and Eve. God dwells then in the body of Adam and Eve. Do you truly understand? This is very important. Since God now dwells within Adam and Eve, Adam and Eve also dwell in God. Therefore, when the visible Adam and Eve are absolutely united in happiness and joy and goodness, God Himself feels the same happiness, goodness and joy.
Who takes the ownership of love first, Adam or God? Why do a young man and woman want to marry? A woman wants to conquer man’s world completely, and vice versa. When a husband and wife embrace, because their bodies have been constructed from all the elements of the universe and each is a concentration, or microcosm, of the universe, they are actually embracing the entire universe, including the invisible God. Then where is the point at which they should become one? It is where the vertical and horizontal meet and form a perpendicular angle.
In that case, if the body is like the husband, then the wife’s position is like that of the flesh. If we say man’s love organ is like a mountain, woman’s is like a valley. Therefore, when they become one they become like a flat plane. When they become flattened like a meadow, then you can expect all kinds of insects, flowers and animals to prosper in there. If one side or the other said no, I don’t like that opposite aspect, there would be no hope for life there. There is only one power which can create the meadow-like flatland, and that is the power of love.
If the husband says, well I tried the concave once, but I don’t like it, and runs away, or the wife says, I don’t want that high mountain, once is enough, and runs away, then this flatland will become a rugged wilderness where no life can grow. For human beings to grow they need a beautiful natural environment, not the wilderness. That is why we have to create this kind of beautiful flatland.
What is different between man and woman when they cry? Women usually hide themselves in a closet or in the kitchen cooking over a stove; but when the husband is really angry or sad, instead of staying in the house he will kick open the door and go out and burst out crying. Isn’t that true? He is dealing with big trees, ocean and mountains, then he will cry. Women usually laugh up to down, but men up and out. The conclusion is, no matter what you may try or think, woman is wo-man and man is man. You cannot change your gender. Wo-man is formed with a concave shape in order to receive. Would you say this teaching is wrong or right? [Right.]
The average American woman usually doesn’t know who is in the position of subject. They will say, “Look at me, I am the most beautiful woman in the world. So if I walk on the street I will have many men following me.” From God’s viewpoint, the wind created by women’s skirts is ruining the world. Even if you don’t want to hear this, you must, and you must understand it. From what I can see, this is not just the problem of one woman but of all American women. It’s a big problem. If you lose your proper position you must expect to perish.
GOD, MAN AND WOMAN BECOME ONE
God is the motive and we are the result. The invisible flesh of God becomes the visible flesh of human beings, and His invisible bones become the bone structure. In other words God comes into the human body and dwells there. That is why when human beings become the proper love partner to God, then God can enjoy and feel good together with human beings.
Where can God and human beings become one? By kissing, by embracing? Where? But the love organs are the last thing people want to talk about; they are considered dirty things. This is because of the fall of man. The love organs are the headquarters palace of love, of life and of lineage. Love starts in that place, life is born in that place and lineage inherited through that place. But this most precious place became the most dirty place as a result of the fall. How can this fallen result be reversed and turned upright again, restoring its original position and value? We have to deny everything absolutely, otherwise we cannot enter the Kingdom of God. Everything in this world belongs to Satan’s side. We have to deny the world, the nation, society, even family, grandparents, parents, spouse and children. They are living in selfish, extreme individualism. So throughout history everyone has been alone in a way, having lost everything and everybody, their parents, children and all their belongings. All kinds of confusion and conflict have resulted because no one knew the value of true love or how to find the value and purpose of life. The world is full of conflict, confusion and enemy relationships. How can we bring it back to the original point?
When young people grow up they are attracted to the opposite sex, but can they find real true love? Can a pretty young woman trust any man or a young man trust any woman? Because people don’t understand the purpose and value of the love relationship they try to take someone of the opposite sex as their slave rather than to serve them.
The first love should last. There was only one man and one woman in the Garden of Eden to realize one absolute love between them. Do you have confidence you can keep absolute faith eternally within you? Do any of you have confidence to end the battle between mind and body within yourself? Once fallen people experience the power of true love, they will find that unifying mind and body will be no problem.
At the time of Adam and Eve, even though God was their Parent, they could not have hyung sang parents because of their fall. Therefore through the course of human restoration, when they complete the process of becoming absolute husband and wife, becoming one with God and producing children, they can realize the hyung sang God, their parent, through themselves.
From God’s point of view, God as an invisible being is descending to where the visible body, Adam and Eve are, and from Adam and Eve’s point of view they are ascending to meet their invisible Parent, God. In childhood they grow separately through brotherhood and sisterhood, but once they reach maturity, instead of remaining apart forever they turn towards one another. The same principle applies to God’s journey when He starts descending. When Adam and Eve reach the stage of puberty and their bodies and spirits are burning like a fireball, this means God is reaching the core of their bones.
The original mind is unchangeable, so when the body makes a wrong move, it orders the body not to do that or to correct it right away. When Adam and Eve reach maturity and God comes down and they totally unite and produce children, Adam and Eve represent horizontal parents and God represents vertical Parents. When God and Adam and Eve meet together with their children and those children marry, that is the point at which all three become happy. That is why God has been waiting for the day of Adam and Eve’s marriage. That wedding will be God’s own wedding. The purpose of marriage is that man and woman captivate one another absolutely. Thus when they join in marriage, that is when God comes down and joins them. As the man represents God’s bone and the woman God’s flesh, and because the invisible God and the visible Adam and Eve become one, therefore their wedding day is God’s wedding day-a day when God, Adam and Eve should all feel very happy. From this explanation we should understand that Adam and Eve are in the position of God’s body and the original mind of Adam and Eve is God. Therefore, unity between mind and body means unity between humankind and God. There is no room for Satan whatsoever.
THE GROWTH OF ADAM AND EVE PARALLELS I GOD’S GROWTH
God Himself must have come through different stages of growth similar to infancy, childhood and adulthood. Like-wise, in resembling God both husband and wife must be able to recognize each other’s development through different stages of growth that parallel God’s growth. When they raise their children they should realize the different stages of God’s growth and their own growth. Even God Himself cannot be perfect without achieving the three object purpose. That is why God needs the three objects-Adam and Eve and their children. Adam and Eve and their children also need three objects. That is how the three object purpose is fulfilled in the ideal family.
As an invisible being, God wanted to be visible by wearing Adam and Eve’s visible body. By the same token, when Adam and Eve have children, they realize their own growth by watching their children grow. Thus, God, Adam and Eve feel joy through the subject and object relationship directly. As an invisible being God could not be really excited about His own existence, but through wearing Adam and Eve’s bodies and by going through the different stages of growth through their physical bodies, God could feel excitement, joy and happiness directly. By the same token, through watching their children grow, Adam and Eve become one with God.
God created only one couple, Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve could create many children, however, and the greater thing is their child. All parents want their child to be greater than themselves.
The descendants of fallen Adam and Eve who did not have a chance to receive love from God and True Parents are doomed to end up in hell. Because everything fell apart at the second generation stage, God was unable to hold onto the three generations of God, Adam and Eve and their children. Therefore, God has been working behind human history in the course of restoration. Finally, now True Parents have come and revealed all these secrets. They are completing the history of restoration through giving the marriage blessing. Through this, God and True Parents are now planting the original true seed of life and love in this world. This fallen world should rot to the ground level and become the fertilizer for the building of the new seed of humankind, a new breed of heavenly citizens to build the Kingdom of God.
ARTISTIC LOVE BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE
Between husband and wife, who usually takes more hours of rest? In many cases after the husband goes to work his wife takes it easy and thus accumulates energy. By the time her husband comes home, she is dressed, with makeup on, waiting to receive his love. But as soon as he comes in all sweaty, she may order him to go and wash himself, even though he is exhausted. He may be so tired that after taking a shower and coming to sit at the dinner table he starts dozing. Sometimes he cannot even finish his dinner and falls asleep on his wife’s lap. Then, instead of embracing and comforting him, some wives push their husbands aside and go into the kitchen saying, “He’s not a man. I need a stronger man than him.”
On the other hand, suppose there is a wife who, no matter what she did during the day, is waiting for her husband to come home from work and as soon as he comes in tired and sweaty, says “Welcome. Don’t bother washing, please sit here. I’ve already prepared dinner.” If he is too tired, she is willing to feed him. Then the husband will start feeling very happy and inspired and they will take turns feeding one another. Then maybe the husband will fall asleep on his wife’s lap, but still she is happy and embracing him. Eventually the husband may feel, “Well my wife is so lovely tonight, maybe I should take a shower,” and he will do so. If that is the kind of scenario in your household is that husband a fortunate man or an unfortunate one?
What about Father? Do you think he is a happy husband or an unhappy one? [Happy!] Why do you say so? If you wear love spectacles, everything looks sweet. Why do you think I am a happy man? When my hair is getting too long I go to Mother and say, “Mother, I feel my hair is too long.” Mother immediately comes with scissors and gives me a haircut. When I feel my nails are a little too long, I say, “Mother, I think my fingernails are a little bit overdue,” then Mother clips all my fingernails. When my toenails get too long and begin to bother me, I give my foot to Mother who immediately trims them beautifully. Even in the tub, when I feel there is a lot of dirt accumulated there, Mother immediately comes with a washcloth and washes my back. Whatever I need, Mother comes and voluntarily, with joy and happiness, does for me. So don’t you think I’m a happy man? Mother offers love and care to me more than anyone else in the world. That is the beauty, the art, even, of love. That is what makes me happy all the time. In return, if anything is out of place on Mother, I always take care of it. You all like to hear this, don’t you? That is how to practice love as an artistic couple.
When Mother cares for Father in such a way, Mother feels like Father is her oldest son. So when True Parents’ children watch Father and Mother relate in such a way, they all run to Mother and ask for that kind of care and love.
By looking at his wife’s eyes, a husband should be able to figure out what kind of day she has had. The question is how to make his wife’s eyes smile. There are many different parts of his wife which can smile, beginning with her mouth. Instead of just taking your wife to bed, first you have to make sure her eyes are smiling and that her nose, ears, mouth, hands and feet and all of her organs and cells are intoxicated with smiling and laughing, joy and happiness, then she will naturally come and put her arms around your neck. That is when you can lift her up and turning around 360 degrees carry her to the bed and embrace and kiss her, then that’s it; everything concludes well.
As the founder of a very serious religion, giving these kinds of instructions on how to have a happy conjugal relationship, think what a miserable religious founder I am.
[Laughter.] That’s true! Maybe a minister, on hearing what I am saying, may go and twist the reality a little and say, “Well, I went to the Unification Church Children’s Day celebration expecting someone like a holy pope, but Reverend Moon is totally different. He is a very natural, ordinary person.” Which do you think is more ideal and more close to God?
LIFE FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR SPOUSE
We have to have a happy life. That is the guarantee that we can go to heaven. We have to seek God. There are many things I have to teach you about how to reach God. Wives, your life is one of hanging onto and clinging to your husband, of being worn by him. Your life in a word has to be for the sake of your husband. Do you understand? The beginning of the existence of any being is for the sake of others. A woman may say, well, this is my body, my organs, my life, so no one can say anything about me. But she does not under-stand the reality that she exists for the sake of her husband. Is the design of her body for her own sake or for her children? The owner of her breasts and her hips is her children. Being pretty with soft and gentle skin, does a woman want her husband to be like her-self, or rugged and mountain-like? Just as when we put our ten fingers together they make perfect unity, a soft and gentle woman combines perfectly with a rugged and powerful husband.
When your wife is in an indifferent mood, you can extend your arms and carry her on your back. 1f she is making you really angry over something, tell her you will go and stay in the bathroom for fifteen minutes, and when you come out your heart has already overcome. The husband should do this, instead of his wife. There is no reason to fight. If you get angry at your spouse for an hour, that feeling may linger for ten days. Your children, your pets and even the furniture in your house will feel that angry feeling. Do you think that is the ideal relationship between husband and wife, kicking and fighting each other? There will be clouds and rain falling upon you. But we are all looking for the sunshine. When you have that kind of difficult time, remember what I am telling you today.
Can you women maintain this kind of standard for your entire life? [Yes.] I may give a prize to anyone who is courageous enough to admit that she is a wife who always fights with her husband. Isn’t there an American wife who is the champion in this area?
Even if a man has a Ph.D. and is very prominent, if he does not function as the bone of his couple then his wife will be miserable. No matter how famous a woman may be, if she doesn’t function as the flesh in her couple, that husband will be miserable. Do you understand this? The seed of the baby grows out of bone, not flesh. In other words, the father plants bone into the life of the baby, then the baby receives flesh from the mother and forms its human features. Therefore we can say mother and children have to become absolutely one first before they become one with the father in the family. That is the ideal family. The family in which the mother and children unite as one in respect for the father has happiness and freedom.
A woman is like a fragrant flower that is open for a short time. For whom is that time? For her husband. The husband is like a butterfly drawn by the flower’s fragrance. As the flower reproduces through its give and take with the butter-fly. Through their give and take of love, man and woman conceive a child. This is the formula for such relationships in the created world.
Let’s understand one fact clearly. My bone was given by my father, my flesh was given by my mother, therefore, there is no myself. I consist of my father and my mother. Therefore the only thing I have to make sure I have are life and love that I can offer to my spouse. I have parents love; I received life and lineage from my parents. That’s it. Even if my parents want to cut themselves off from me, it cannot be done. Such a person can be the one who inherits everything from parents. Without reaching that stage you cannot enter the Kingdom. This is an unchanging heavenly law.
Why do couples need to receive the blessing? Because it is the straight passage to the Kingdom. Because of the fall of man, humankind received false love, life and lineage, there-fore through receiving this blessing of marriage now through True Parents we can restore true love, life and lineage, live our lives like True Parents and God and become one with them. After practicing this kind of life, when we enter the spirit world we can live with God as His children.
[Father writes on board:] Cheon-guk gwa kajung. This means Kingdom of God and family. What kind of family? A perfect family. A perfect family unified and connected centering on true love. Have you reached that kind of level as a family? This is the problem. Today is Children’s Day. Children want that kind of perfect family. The family was destroyed and turned 180 degrees in the wrong direction. We have to restore it back to its original position, because it is the family that enters the Kingdom, not the individual. Satan destroyed heavenly families. That is why free sex, homosexuality and all other distorted expressions of immorality are rampant. As long as people practice a lifestyle of free sex there is no eternal spouse. There are many people today who think they do not need children. They will end up in a dark corner of hell, unable to face the beautiful family life in the spirit world because they don’t fit in there. This is the reality. Do you understand? [Yes.] Yes means you have to make effort to achieve that perfection.
GOD’S PRESENCE IN TRUE CONJUGAL LOVE
Where we can find true family and true ownership is in the Kingdom of God. What does true family mean? In the true family, husband and wife represent God’s substantial manifestation or God’s body. Centering on true love, we call God Father. It is a combination of vertical and horizontal, like mother and daughter uniting. Centering on the will of God they become one. Once husband and wife become one center-ing on God’s will and God’s love, when they make love they have to invite God to be present in their lovemaking. But there is the precondition that both husband and wife have to make sure that their mind and body are absolutely one. Upon that foundation, God can be invited to participate in their lovemaking and they represent God’s body as a couple. The subject is the owner, but through the lovemaking relationship subject and object become one. By becoming one, the subject and object own each other and God. They become all together one body, one mind. If we can create such a couple and such lovemaking, then we can say that more than making love with the most beautiful woman or most handsome man in the world for 1,000 years, just one time making love with that kind of foundation with God is much more precious and valuable. Only there will God want to be involved. That is how you can experience that you made love with God and lived with God. Then when you go to the spirit world you can claim yourself as a member of the royal family.
Since you understand the goal of lovemaking, when you go to bed with your spouse, from the husband’s point of view, you have to be humble, feeling that you, as someone like a slave, had the opportunity to marry this queen. Whether it was your will or not, now you are married with your queen. Then how humble, how polite, how cautious and careful you will be when you are going to make love with your wife for the first time. With that kind of caution and humility you have to approach your wife or husband. With that kind of sincerity and loving feeling, when you make love for the first time you will experience something like a million-volt stroke of lightning and thunder. From God’s viewpoint, all the blessed couples are like twinkling stars. Among the many millions of twinkling, blessed couple stars, you have to aim for your couple to become the brightest. The relationship between husband and wife is ideal if, whether you live together 10, 20, 30, 40 or even 50 years, you still feel an abundance of love for each other every moment of your life. Then that is the way it will be in the spirit world and God will immediately recognize your quality. How beautiful and wonderful it is in front of God. He can embrace you constantly. You can become such wonderful sons and daughters.
You wives must continuously study your husbands. If you go around and look at him from the back, you will be surprised and find a new quality there. You should be able to examine your husband from every angle, 360 degrees. At the time of marriage you saw only a microscopic part of your husband, but after being married many years you feel more relaxed and can examine him from many different angles. Do you feel that if you were to die and be born again you would absolutely choose the same husband? [Yes!] If you truly study your spouse you will see your own resemblance. Your eyes, ears and every other part of you exists for the sake of your spouse.
The following are topics I will cover at the leaders conference. Please ask your leader to explain them in detail when he returns to your center.
- The prophecy from Korea
- True Parents’ teaching about the Kingdom of Heaven
- Dr. Sang Hun Lee’s revelations about the spirit world.
- Father’s prayer book #5 on filial piety
- The Jardim declarations
- The Kodiak proclamation of 4.4 Jeol
- The proclamation of liberation through unification given on October 5.
I hope all of you blessed couples who are gathered here today will eventually become ideal couples and build ideal families. From today on we are headed toward the 40th True Children’s Day. Before we reach the 43rd True Children’s Day, we want our dream, our goal to be achieved. Amen. [Amen.]