Parents Matching Convocation and Matching Advisors
Parents Matching Convocation and Matching Advisors Training at UTS on October 2014
FFWPU USA (By Crescentia DeGoede, BFM Director): On October, 24-26 2014 the National Blessing and Family Ministry (BFM) conducted a Matching Advisors (MA) Training and Parents Matching Convocation (PMC) at the Unification Theological Seminary (UTS) in Barrytown, New York. The purpose of MA Training seminars are to equip and certify individuals in guiding 1st generation and Blessed Families through the matching process. The purpose of PMCs is to help Unificationist parents learn about the matching process, better equip themselves to match their children, and meet and network with other parents.
The MA training and convocation were well attended, with 25 participants in the training and 70 participants in the PMC, many participating in a PMC for the first time. The majority of the participants came from New York and New Jersey. Others came from Georgia, Maryland, Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Colorado, and even as far as Hawaii.
Through the Matching Advisors Training, 25 new Matching Advisors were equipped and certified to support 1st generation members and Blessed Families in the matching process. Trainees included: Rev. Ricardo de Sena, UPF USA president, David Stuart, National Messiah to Venezuela; Dairo Ferraboli, former national leader of Brazil; and Abdou and Marra Gaye, co-pastors of the recent church plant, Kingston Family Church. The training consisted of a several different presentations given by Crescentia and Leighton DeGoede and Matching Advisor Coordinators, Anne-Marie Mylar and Marjorie Buessing about the matching process and the role of a matching advisor, and how to utilize matching tools and resources.
During the Parents Matching Convocation participants listened to presentations from BFM Director, Crescentia DeGoede, on “Inheriting a God-Centered Matching Tradition”, BFM Consultant, Debby Gullery on the “Matching Process Guidelines” and “Deepening the Parent-Child Relationship”, and BFM Tech Support, Leighton DeGoede on “Online Matching Tools and Resources”. They also listened to testimonies from young Blessed couples about the process by which they were matched, Matching Advisors about how they have helped families in the matching process, and parents who have matched their children on what worked and what didn’t. Participants also had the opportunity to discuss in small groups their questions, concerns and challenges regarding the matching process with one another, and provide support. Participants with children of matching age (18 years or older) also had the opportunity to view profiles of eligible candidates for the matching from around the country and world.
Testimonies from Matching Advisors Training participants
Rev. Ricardo de Sena : “I am totally grateful to God, True Parents and each member of the BFM for accepting me as a Matching Advisor. I was filled with very impressive information and loving give and take with my dear brothers and sisters.”
David Stewart : “A great amount of material was communicated in a short time and the printed material was very well prepared. I was surprised by the depth of the support system that has already developed and realized the importance of my own complete commitment to those I may serve in the future.”
Abdou Gaye : “I learned about the Heavenly standards, the sacred mission of parents, and the importance of respecting our children’s insights”
Caren Samen : “I felt there was a tremendous amount of information presented in a short time. I really appreciate the complete sincerity of the staff and their enthusiasm for this ‘ministry.’ I also appreciated the unity of the generations. Thank you, thank you!”
Aldo Sensini : “I learned that the matching advisor and parents needs to pay more attention to children’s words, desires, and inspirations in the effort to find an ideal spouse.”
Monica Vallejo : “Awesome! Very very impressed by how much we can do to help, and how important it is for our brothers and sisters to feel that there is a huge group all around the world for support and guidance in the biggest goal in life – the Blessing.”
Rev. Abayomi Oladipo : “It was very helpful to understand how to approach the matching using teamwork at the same time having the candidate take more responsibility and ownership.”
Kerryn Gontijo: “I learned that as Matching Advisors we can support, not push, the candidates by listening to their preferences in the matching process.”
Testimonies from Convocation participants
Celeste Koshida : “This has been amazing. I received so much hope from this program. I knew I had to match my children but couldn’t ever imagine how. Now I have an image of how it will happen. There is a wonderful tried and true process and so much support. I am eager to get back to Atlanta and share with everyone. I want to give other families hope. The Blessing Traditions is alive and well. Our culture is developing. Thank you so much!!!”
Pippa Hoffman : “I was amazed and awestruck by the heart, investment and professionalism of the workshop team. The context was excellent and clearly communicated. The testimonies were amazing. I feel more confident to move forward so that my husband and I can respond to our son’s wishes and create a clear plan with him. ”
Dale Hoffman : “The PMC presents extremely valuable information for any parent who is considering a matching for their son or daughter.”
Catherine Ichinohe: “It was a very good experience for me, a very different experience from 7 years ago. The presentations by young staff members were awesome and it gives me a lot of hope in the matching process. I would recommend to all parents matching their children to attend a convocation.”
Nicholas Kernan : “I gained great, great information and wisdom on how to approach the matching and Blessing. It is very good to see how the process has evolved and that we have learned from mistakes made in the past. It was a WORKshop with lots of ideas on how to grow myself, my marriage, and how to better prepare for the matching of my children.”
Dominique Johnson: “It was reassuring and calmed my fears of making a mistake in the process. I learned that I need to change my point of view and accept and see my child from a more open point of view. I can say that the point was clear that we have to be aware of how much our own concepts get in the way.”
Ken Tassey : “Testimonies from both 1st and 2nd gen gave great insight into the ‘dos’ and ‘don’t’s’ of building trust between parents and children and between two families. Content related to giving our children ownership was helpful. Also, the breadth of experiences and variety of ‘methods’ through which successful matchings happened was liberating.”
Kumiko Valentin: “I really felt how much God loves all of us and our children. He wants us to be happy and wants to give blessing to all our children.”
Celeste Koshida : “The testimonies from parents who have matched their children was renewing for my spirit. God is working so clearly in our lives.”